Okay, so I figure that the last essay might of left a question or two unanswered, so I will try and elaborate as best I can. Do I veiw most women as sexual objects. Yes. Does that make me a masogynist (or boor, or sexist pig, etc.) No. Why not? Cause I want the women I see as sexual objects to see me, and other men, as sexual objects. I encourage it even. More than that, just because I want to fuck a girl doesn't mean that I think she isn't intelligant, good at what she does, or otherwise less than any other person. If anything, intelligance and being competant are attractive qualities in anyone, man or woman, sexual or not.
If I was looking at two people to hire for a job, both equal backgrounds and personality, one woman, one man, I'd take the woman. The reason isn't that I want to plow the bitch, the reason is I like dealing with women more than men in general. Maybe it's cause I was inbetween two sisters growing up, like a friend suggested, or maybe its cause I got into a lot of fights with boys when I was younger, as I suggested. Or maybe I want to leave the window open to bang the whore, as a whore once suggested. A whore, I might add, that did not, nor will probably ever, be so banged by I.
It's very difficult to prove a negative. Impossible from a scientific, and thus mathmatical, point of view, however, with logic and reason, we can come as close as one can. A masogynist thinks less of women. Does wishing to have sex with women mean I think less of them the men I don't wish to have sex with? Would I have to be bi-sexual to prove myself of thinking of the two sexes as equal? I think not. I am happy that corporations traditionally thought of as geared towards male are looking to expand into female markets. Not for the sucess that it brings them, or because I think women look sexy in paintball gear. If I wanted to see a woman in chaps, I'd say leave her sitting on the bitch seat. However, I want to see her riding her own bike, ride with her, race her (without the potential of losing, its not a race. Victory is only meaningful if something is on the line, and if one loses, the desire for a rematch is much more appealing then the desire to beat someone who couldn't possibly compete with you), and yes, if she looks good (or even decent... perhaps even subpar) in her leather jacket and pants, fuck her brains out. What I'm trying to drive home, no pun intended (although by pointing it out, Freud would say I did intend it), is that I want to see the two worlds collide, men and women enjoy the same things, without the fear of bigotry, just as I wish to see the different races, religion, and creeds share this world. Not just to my own benefit, but the more points of view you have involved in a matter, the better I believe it can be.
The very foundation of the American government... after some amendments, says as much. By denying a signifigant portion of the population to participate in an activity, you only hurt yourself. If you said women couldn't read or work, you're cutting off 50% of the population from contributing. If a woman discovered a cure to a disease, you couldn't necessarily say well some guy would of come up with it, because that's like saying some other doctor could've come up with the cure. Yes, in time, another doctor could have, or perhaps a different doctor working under the same grant, but perhaps not. The point is, Dr. Lady found it out while Dr. Man didn't. If she didn't do it, you'd be waiting for a cure, and in the meantime people would suffer.
Regardless, the point is I don't hate women, I love women... okay, so that's the same as saying I'm not racist, I have black friends. It's absolutely meaningless towards the issue being contested. However, while I may have the occasionaly fantasy about having a harem, as all red blooded american men should from time to time, I don't actually want one, I just think it'd be nice to have if we lived in a society where men died in droves from war leaving many women without husbands to take care of them (this also depends upon the women being uneducated and without the necessary skills, intelligance, and opportunity to succeed in business). The point is, it's okay to think about things, as long as you don't act on them. That includes staring, but only if you're willing to follow it up if they recipricate. Although me to explain. You shouldn't make people feel uncomfortable, whether it be through talk or looks, but the occasional glance at someone, with the properly timed head turn when they start looking at you, is perfectly fine. Only if you have the confidence, instead of the head turn, give the wink, maybe get a smile, laugh, or lay, it depends on your dress and basic appearance, and their preferences. Plus you'll have to be able to say a few words inbetween the wink and the horizontal limbo.
But, as usual, I digress from the issue at hand. Sexual fantasizing is okay, but only act on things the other is willing to go on. You do that, and you're just like me. And since I probably need to reiterate, men and women are welcome to do this. Nothing sexier than a woman that knows what she wants, and is willing to go the distance to take it. Damsels in distress are nice when playing dress up in the bed room, but we all know they dont exist out side of there and fairy tales. So men, searching for them will only get you in trouble; and women, well, black leather will never go out of fashion.
I'm not a bad speller, I did it on purpose... honest.
Don't confuse a sense of humor for sexism, if I were a woman, I'd be saying the same kind of things about men. It's like today, when joking with a black friend of mine, she made a joke, and I retaliated (as one does in a battle of wits), and a black bystander gave me a look. He didn't understand that we have been friends for years, and say this sort of thing all the time. We didnt at first, but after we felt comfortable with one another, we began to jest. That's how I treat this essay writing dealy, as if the reader were a trusted friend. If I offend, than I apologize. I know many are quick to anger, and especially when one talks to a new comer as a trusted friend, blood can boil fast. Take a laid back attitude, recall that vampires are real, and move on with your life.